[.uk] The Bully at Work: What You Can Do to Stop the Hurt and ... (ISBN 1570715343)

Terrific overview on harrassment behavior:
THE BULLY AT WORK looks at the latest issue in the work place--allowing a manager (or in some cases a co-worker)to demean you as a method of control and keeping you from seeing your value as an employee of a company. This practice occurs within many companies. Some don't offically authorize it but sanction it by ignoring it or ignoring the problem(bringing it up to HR only indicates to those within that department that they are not doing their job in many cases making them defensive). Many managers get away with it in large corporations because the people they work for never are on the receiving end of these mind games (and make no mistake they are mind games). Large corporations whether they be a large company like Novartis, Kaiser, IBM and smaller organizations often lose good people by allowing what amounts to harrassment to occur. The authors outline the steps you need to take to derail the psychological manipulation, restore your self confidence and sense of self worth. In some cases, that means leaving a company. Often these companies ignore the signs (high turnover within an office or district, complaints mentioned in exit interviews)because of concern over lawsuits. This enables the disfunctional person behind these humilitations to continue to their assault on employees and make no mistake it is an assault comprising a form of psychological rape. The authors identify the various personalty types, types of abuse and what makes someone a Target. They also make suggestions to disable employees from becoming Targets and discouraging the manager/supervisor from continuing their onslaught. Just because a manager discontinues harrassing one employee doesn't mean they won't continue doing this because according to the authors it springs from a deep seated insecurity and bullying as children by their parents or other children. Sadly, as the authors point out the Targets of bullying allow the bully to act out on their aggression and usually the bully has no insight into their actions or unethical behavior. You're not imagining it. This book will help you act and deal with these psychologically disturbed individuals wrongly put into positons of power.

The Bully at Work: What You Can Do to Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity on the Job:
The book puts ones personal experiences into words that make you feel and understand the trauma that has taken place. The author offers wonderful ways to become whole again in your work and personal lives. I recommend this to everyone who works and/or has to deal with controlling and demeaning individuals who believe that we exist only to serve them.

Publishers' Weekly Heartless Review:
I cannot believe a supposedly unbiased reveiwer like "Publishers Weekly" actually stated the following in review to this bok: "However, the notion of "bullying" as a crime seems farfetched;" Tell that to the thousands and perhaps millions of children who have been bullied by parents teachers, priests and other so-called "authorities whose lives have been ruined as a result! Then they went on to suggest that rather than try to change public opinionion, that they should try to teach people how to deal with the abuse! Once again, blaming the victim for the fault of the abuser. What the writer of this review may not realize is that most victims of employment bullying have virtually no way to "fight back" unless they are to become unemployed as a result - Most of the bullies are the bosses! Also, the bullies tend to know how to target those who cannot fight back because they have been disempowered since childhood from such bullying! I've lost a lot of respect for "Publisher's Weekly" reading such a blatantly cold-hearted response. Perhaps we should put the writer in the workplace position that those of us who now have lifetime traumatic issues to deal with as a direct result of the PTSD we have experienced from such workplace bulling for a year or 2 and see if they still feel the same way after such abuse!

Bullies among us.:
Being on the bullied side, reading this book gave me affirmation that I was not the only one out here. I could relate to so many experiences and the sequence of events and their outcomes. It is so sad that the Bullies of this world are the one's that are given the pats on the back. These bullies are dotted on as the go getters, ambitious, and successful ones. In my experience Human Resource was of no use they took the side of the Supervisors, Managers, and Executives. The Supervisors try to cover up as to not have to deal with unpleasant situations. This leaves the person being bullied with two choices suck it up and learn to deal with it somehow or find another job even if they are good employee's. The book gives you an insight on the psychology of the bullies. The book offers some ways to handle situations. How to approach things but the bottom line that I came away with is that unless you have a very good case and a lawyer that actually cares to take these situations head on because they are wrong get your resume together. WHY should we have to be the one's to leave or suck it up? The author did a great job with the research and putting things out there as it is. I'm glad I have it and it did make me understand the situation and the nature of a bully but it still does not make it right. Thank you MR.and MRS. Namie for sticking up for those of us who needed a voice to unmask these Bullies. I wish that those who are in Management and also deal in HR would read this. I'm sure they sleep very soundly at night.

A life-saver. Really.:
This book will seem silly to those who have not seen a bully at work. But now that I work in a bully environment, this book is a life-saver. I have managed to keep my bullies at bay, but I know several employees who are being systematically destroyed by more than one bully. So far I have referred three people to this book. Bullies at work are destroying and damaging thousands of good, hard-working people every day. It is so tragic and sad. I thank the authors for addressing this national shame forcefully, frankly and with sound advice. Heaven help the employee.