[.uk] Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others: How to Increase ... (ISBN 0007178611)

Can't argue with the hard facts:
Great book, wish I had read it two years ago! I started dating a man who said periodically that he was never getting married again, women, men always mean it when they say that. Take their word for it. About eighteen months later (which Molloy recommends as the right time to discuss the C word) I told him I was apartment hunting, and my boyfriend asked to me to get my things and move out. I dropped the bomb on him and said that one reason I was looking for another place to live is that I don't know where he stood on marriage, I told him (above his protests) that I believed I was good enough to be a wife, and not a cohabitant or concubine. I realize that common-law marriage is recognized in Georgia, but why should I settle for common-law marriage by default? Any man who has no intention of marrying you (even after you browbeat them like some of the women in the book did) but thinks its alright to live together, to me that guy is never gonna have your back, so my instincts have been right on track. As the authors said, "Women who marry refuse to settle for less than marriage" (including cohabitation.) Ladies, the truth will set you free. He told me if I was willing to wait, even two years, he might "consider it" He then said I didn't have the patience to continue, to which I replied, "You want me to keep giving you free domestic service and sexual favors for two more years? Don't you know how incentive works?" He's 2X divorced and well into his 50s. I could be dating younger and trimmer men with less baggage, I thought, boy was I smart to pick up and leave, and not stay years on end as a man's personal slave! Women 30 and up need to get this book! Remember if you are good enough to live with you are darn sure good enough to marry. Always let the man know that, and don't shack, even though Molloy never mentions cohabitation, it is the kiss of death to committed relationships...Good luck.

Worth a Read, Actually RESEARCHED which is unusual in a Dating Book:
Well, I didn't utterly LOVE this book. But as a Romance Coach and one who purports Online Dating etc. naturally, I have read this book. It is worth a read. Interesting enough it is one of the few dating books which was actually RESEARCHED. However, the author shows his research background because he does not know how to engage his audience, who would clearly be Unmarried Women, and likely those over 35. The one point he makes which I think is utterly fabulous is his noticing that women who marry are often those with a gaggle of girlfriends with whom they regularly go out where all are making an effort to meet men and marry. This is SUCH sound advice. Fun too! Take it. Read this book. It's worth a read. I can safely recommend books where I can leverage at least a few of the ideas. Not CHOCK full of ideas for getting more dates like I am, but some good ideas. Those books are worth reading. This is one of those. Enjoy! All the best, April Braswell Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Read It and Use It:
I was in a relationship that lasted four years and went absolutely nowhere and I could not figure out why. After reading this book, I realized that there were red flags from day one and I did not know enough to clue in on them. I decided to put this book to the test. First, I decided that my life would not be complete if I was not married so I dated with the idea that I was looking for a prospective husband. If, after a few dates, it was evident that the relationship would not lead to marriage, I moved on (I was 27 and didn't want to waste time in relationships that were not going to give me what I wanted). Eventually after a few months, I met my current boyfriend and the material in the book gave me insight into our relationship. The chapter regarding "age of commitment" was/is especially helpful to understand when a man of his educational and professional background would be ready to commit. Right now I am planting the seed regarding marriage. I actually came right out and told him that I want to marry him! It's still too early to tell if this tactic will work but he was very receptive to what I was saying. So I guess we'll have to see... The bottom line is that I felt this book was intuitive and really helped me. I think it will be relavant to most single women, even those over 35, considering that so many couples are getting married at an older age. I just bought myself a second copy on Amazon. I loaned out the first copy and never got it back. It is definitely the type of thing I'd want to refer back to.

ssential Reading:
This book is so well researched, as the author constantly reminds you, that is quite hard to argue with the evidence and theories presented. I found this book very enjoyable reading because it was so packed with statistics and real life examples. The book is full of help, advice and information on what exactly motivates men to marry women,and this subject is divided in to the various stages of men's lives, the various kinds of men and their various baggage, and the kind of women that men marry. It is fresh, original and informative. It's not a manual on how to get a man to marry you, but it will help you look at your man's marriage potential with a new perspective. Check it out ! You will learn something new! I also highly recommend another great book How to Snag a Guy and Keep Him Hooked: 99 Ways to Make Him Ache for You

Statistical, But Still Meaningful:
This is a factual book based on research. It is not a "here's how to work a man" book. Although it is clinical in its exploration of statistics, there were still eye-opening and meaningful observations in the midst. The upshot was that for the most part women who have never married have never pushed particularly hard to do so. More power to the women that have lived the life of their choosing and have not caved in to the pressure that society often puts on singles. There were some observations about men that were rather heartbreaking. 1) Some men really do want to marry, but they have basically given up. Either they are deemed undesirable for a handful of reasons, or they have been badly hurt. 2) Some widowed men who had seen their wives go through lengthy and heart-wrenching illnesses did not want to ever put themselves in the position of going through that again. 3) Some single fathers are so frazzled and drained from merely getting through the day that they have no energy left to socialize and no agenda in terms of developing a relationship with a woman. This book is worth reading. Although this is generally a clinical exploration, there are plenty of meaningful observations lurking in the statistics. This book will help give you a better understanding of men, women, and marriage in our society.